From the inbox #449

“My mom and my dad have been more accepting of me coming out as ace and I swear, I couldn’t be any more happier than to have parents who still see me as their little girl who grew up into a woman who’s asexual. Sad thing is, I’ve had certain friends of mine who I shan’t name who told me I “had bad experiences”/”am still young at 21″/”God hasn’t have me the right man”/etc. Fact of the matter is, I may be a Christian, but who are they to judge? I’ve never had any real life crushes, no dates irl, seven long distance relationships that failed badly. FFS I even had one ex try to – I shit you not – become asexual just to get back with me when he failed to realize you cannot just suddenly become asexual. It doesn’t work that way. Only two of my exes I have contact with have accepted me for being ace. As for the others? No contact with them, thank goodness. After how they backstabbed me, good riddance to such trash.

Ironic this comes from someone who writes/makes erotica of legal aged characters herself. I realized I was asexual all along, and I’ve been the happiest I’ve been. Ironic my parents are more accepting of me than my so-called friends. As I have been typing all of this, I have been crying. Thank you all for making this amazing page!

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From the inbox #444

“Thank you guys for making this page. I’m so glad this page exists, and I couldn’t be any more happier. I’m a 21 year old woman who finally realized I’m asexual. I never had any real life dates (never showed interest in them), have had only long distance relationships (and thankfully stopped doing them at 20), and ever since I’ve came out as asexual, I’ve gotten things like “you’re still young”. The thing of it is, I’m not young. I’m 21 with the mindset of a 60 year old who’s wise as can be. I’ve also been told that “God will give me the right person” when I don’t need anyone and I’m happier just not being in a relationship with anyone since all my ldrs failed on me. Second, what difference would it make if someone tried to fall in love with damaged goods like me? None. Also, there’s nothing wrong with me being asexual at all. I have no interest in anyone and never will.

Oh, and lets not forget I’ve been told that “but you write/make erotica”. Except its fiction and nothing more. I’m proud to be asexual and that’s that. I love this page with all my heart and couldn’t be happier.”

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From the inbox #415

“So, I came out to my parents over the summer, but since I’m a teen, I don’t really think they believe I’m an ace. Anyway, my school has a GSA, and when I was on swim team, I would go to the GSA meetings. Swim has since ended, so I told my parents about GSA. For a month and a half now, they’ve been saying “we’ll see” when I ask if I can go, but I know that’s them saying no. Any ideas on how I can convince them?”

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From the inbox #397

“I’m ace but I’m not out and my friend says they’re ace but also kinda not sure becuase they’re “too young ” and might not actually be but other people in other parts of the lgbt+ community are told that they, like, haven’t found the right person yet or stuff? And that’s not okay for them but when like (I’m not really sure how to word this @ all sorry)
But that’s not really see the same way but at the same Time it kinda does?
I’m not sure what I was trying to say. But like. Asexuality isn’t like “I’m too young to be sexually attracted to someone”
It’s a real thing ya know?”

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From the inbox #385

“Hey there! Since its Asexual Awareness Week, I thought I’d share my story and how this page helped me. I’m 16, but I discovered the term “Asexual” when I was 15. For a long time I was so determined to find a label for myself, but nothing ever fit or felt right and I never understood why I was having such a difficult time whereas all my friends had their sexualities solved and were so incredibly sure of themselves. When I found asexuality and the ace community I thought “Holy cow, this is it, I found it! Maybe I’m not so abnormal after all” and I was so very happy, and wanted to come out to a close friend of mine, a male, but when I did I was met with “I can’t believe that, you’ve never had sex or anything, you haven’t even had more than one relationship” and when other people asked me what my sexuality was they’d say “You know asexuality doesn’t exist right? It’s humanly impossible, sex is hardwired into all people” which I tried to ignore, but then when I tried to tell my mom she also said “Hahahaha sure, just wait, when you’re older you’ll find the right person and it’ll change your mind about this”. So I abandoned the idea of asexuality, I convinced myself that I was lying to myself, that I wasn’t /really/ asexual. But then as time went on, I saw all the posts from this page about asexuality, that there’s a spectrum to it and you don’t have to be any one way to be asexual and a light bulb went off, and I thought “Bro, you’re asexual. Stop trying to deny yourself”. So that’s where I am now, and I wouldn’t have ever gotten here without this page and pages like it, and the people who are a part of them. Thank you 😊

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From the inbox #379

“I’m not trying to assume anything so if I’m wrong I’m sorry. How old where you (and other people you know) when you/ knew you were not straight? I’m 16 and I think I’m asexual or something close but I’m not sure if I’m just too young to know.”

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From the inbox #345

“Does anyone know if there’s a specific term for actively wanting to remain solitary, as opposed to wanting a relationship of some kind? Asexual and aromantic don’t really cover it, and many aroaces seek and find happy relationships. Just wondering really…if I ever express that I’m really happy by myself and wouldn’t like to be in a relationship, it’s generally met with a patronising smile and “Oh, you’re still young, you just haven’t met the right person yet, when you do you’ll change your mind.”. (Because 26 years is not long enough to know yourself, and EVERYONE MUST BE PAIRED.)”

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From the inbox #110

“I’m in high school, and for a very long time I knew that I was asexual. I am heteroromantic, though, but I do not feel any sexual attraction whatsoever. So when everyone at my school is talking about how great sex is, I just don’t understand. I often times feel left out, but at the same time I don’t see the big deal about it. People often tell me “you just haven’t found the right guy,” “you’re not old enough,” or etc., but I know for a fact that I don’t feel any sexual attraction. I don’t know what to do about it. Even my parents say these things. People at school tell me that I just haven’t had “a good time” yet, even my boyfriend says that! Seriously?? I’m just so stuck. I know my sexuality is valid, but others try to prove me wrong about MYSELF. Don’t I know myself better than others? What can I do?”

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From the inbox #75

“Hello! My names Niko and i thought id message you as encouragement to all young asexual teens out there. Ive been out for about two years now and am currently in high school. Ive been told an array of things by family and people ive been in relationships with. “You’re too young to know” or “you’re broken” and even “you’ve never had sex so what do you know?” I just want you to know it does get better. Even with all the harsh words from people you want support from, you’ll find even better people who will support you and say “Your sexuality matters!” It may seem hopeless right now, but stay strong and don’t give up on yourself. And please remember, your sexuality is valid and is important to you and there will be people who will understand that.”

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From the inbox #73

“So, hi. I’ve been openly asexual for 3 months or so now and I must say, it has been tough. I’ve been told that the “right man for me” is out there, I’m not an important part of the spectrum of the sexuality, and so forth. “What would you know? You’re 14.” I’ve felt so broken for years and now that there are so many people in my situation, I feel… less alone, less broken. I live in South Africa, and people here… let’s just say that they don’t like things that are different. But I suppose it’s like that everywhere. As far as I know I am the only asexual in the tiny town I live in. And it’s really lonely and there’s no one to relate to. I understand that I can’t avoid some situations, but potential romantic relationships are a constant fear of mine even though I’d like one someday. And it feels really terrible that I want to give someone something that they deserve and not being able to. I won’t be able to offer something, someone in a relationship wants and that’s equally terrifying. But now that I know there are other jellybeans, like me. It’s really comforting, even though that you may be living in a different country, or even a different continent . But I feel that I’m no longer an outcast looking for something in the rain, but a family member under a sky of opportunity, seeking a new destiny with hands to help me. And it warms my heart that I am able to help other people in the same boat.

Even though it may be a meme, a message or a video I appreciate all of the support that asexuals and our sexuality receives from our supporters. Thank you for helping me (and others) to be proud of who we are. Asexuals United! ♡”

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