From the inbox #757

“I don’t know if this is the best place to ask or not but.. Are there any (Sex repulsed) Undertale fans here that ship Frans (Frisk x Sans) in a fluffy platonic and or romantic way that isn’t sexual or is that just me? And on that note are there any who find Sans the Skeleton (not human) aesthetically pleasing to look at and maybe want to hug and kiss but don’t wish to “bone” him or is that also just me? I have posted in the Sex Repulsed Asexual group with something similar and I did get one comment, although we shipped differently (they are into Frisk with Papyrus) they felt the same about liking them in a non sexual way. I seem to find so many Frans shippers who identify themselves as Frisk so they could be with Sans… I see Frisk as a different person. If Sans was real, I would hope Frisk was too so they could be together. Sure I’d like to hug him and I’m curious how his body words but I wouldn’t want to do anything sexual with him… I hope this makes sense @_@ I’m not the best with words or anything…”

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From the inbox #720

“I’m curious. I am a sex repulsed ace, and I like to read yaoi. That doesn’t bother me. Anything else does. It’s just fiction and art under no circumstance do I want to see two real men go at it, but my question is this: can I still be sex repulsed and enjoy reading yaoi?
I’m not comfortable with any of form other than yaoi. Reading about sex is uncomfortable, hearing about it is gross, talking about it grosses me out, although sexual humor isn’t a problem.
I’m very sex negative when it comes to sex in regards to myself.
So I do have a general dislike for it except yaoi… is there another term for me other than sex negative or Sex repulsed? Both don’t seem to fit %100.”

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From the inbox #699

TW: Abuse

“I want to get feedback on something kind of sensitive and I know you post stuff from your inbox… But I was wondering: is it wrong to tell people you’re asexual if the reality is you suffered sexual assault and it seriously influenced your ability to ever have sex again? I was molested as a child and was comfortable with my sex drive until the memories started coming back a year ago and I find it’s really hard to explain that I don’t want to have sex ever ever again without going into personal details. Is it wrong that I want to tell people I’m asexual? I’ll stop if the community thinks it’s wrong, but I don’t know how to ask this question. Sorry.”

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From the inbox #679

” I just really need to vent to like minded people. I’m a 18 year old Asexual. Sometimes I feel so alone.. Like I’ll never find someone to love because “no sex” (I’m a sex repulsed asexual) is such a deal breaker in today’s society. Whenever I tell people that I am asexual, I am called a prude, or broken, or they get the notion that they can “fix” me. That I am in denial. But I’m not! It also doesn’t help that I have a large chest so people say “but you have such big breast.. Such a waste” . I just.. I wish I wasn’t asexual sometimes.”

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From the inbox #667

CW: Sexual talk, mentioning of rape

“Hello, I identify as Autochorissexual. As a result I am a proud virgin. My entire life I have been 100% repulsed by any form of sexual behaviour, and am not attracted to the human body, although I do experience arousal through specific obscure fantasies. I recently met an amazing person who has identical fantasies, but as I learned is very obsessed with sex. I thought I could be what she needs as I assumed the fantasies could be enough to help me achieve orgasm. However each attempt at a sexual act upon me, regardless of the adequate fantasy outcomes felt like the worst experience I’ve ever had. Despite consent, I felt violated, filthy and embarassed. I never achieved orgasm, and all I wanted was for them to leave. I felt like no amount of showers could erase the memories that bring me fear and sadness resulting from that night. I never wanted those experiences, but now they haunt me. I am unsure of what to say if my partner wishes to try again, because I know I will never be what she needs. I’m not ashamed to be Asexual, but the truth of what I cannot be for others is what weighs me down. I have nobody that understands my position and feelings. So therefore nobody to turn to. What do I say if she wants to try again? How do I convince the poor woman that it was not her fault? Am I crazy?”

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From the inbox #660

Edit: it’s “not aromantic” instead of “not romantic”.

“Hi there, so I’m working on starting an indie film company, (working with fanfic writers and roleplayers. Totally awesome idea in progress) and I’m working on a script with a person is sex repulsed ace but not aromantic. This character is popular and outgoing and basically the last type of person that anyone would assume is ace, but they have to come out to their significant other. As an ace person myself, I want to put a character out there who I can identify with, and I’m wondering if anyone on your page would have any suggestions for what they’d like to see in an ace character.”

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From the inbox #656

“So I’ve known that I’m ace for probably 6 months or so now, and have had some bad sexual experiences before discovering my ace-ness.

My mom is reading this book about like some bff of Jesus coming back from the dead and living in the modern world and whatever, but anyways, he is really, really, REALLY focused on sex. She tried to read me an excerpt of the friend talking about the lack of sex in the Wizard of Oz, and I was very clearly getting uncomfortable. I asked her to stop, because I didn’t find it funny, and she was like “shut up you prude, it’s hilarious.”

So I tried to walk away, which only made her follow me around, still reading this excerpt. She followed me up to my room, which is automatically a huge threat to me, because it’s like being trapped and attacked in my own space.

STILL, she is reading this very explicit excerpt.

Finally I had to start screaming at her, because this is a MASSIVE breach of my boundaries and becoming very triggering. “I don’t fucking find penises funny, and I don’t find sex funny.”

So then, she started crying and acting as though this was all my fault, and she and my dad both started yelling at me to because i apparently “can’t let people enjoy things,” and “don’t have a sense of humour.” Which brings me to my point: how do i enforce boundaries when parents don’t take my sexuality and triggers seriously? I’ve struggled for so many years to try and mould myself to SOME sexuality, and now that i know I’m ace, it just seems like a huge joke to people.

Anyways, thanks. Xoxo”

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From the inbox 589

“Hello,

I have just recently got into a relationship. I had to explain to my boyfriend that I am a sex-repulsed asexual; he didn’t understand it back then, but I am very thankful that he respects me whenever we would get intimate (but never had sex). He stops when I would say ‘no’ or when I look uncomfortable. He’s a sexual person, I am not. Though I don’t want him to feel bad or that it’s always him that has to give way to me. I would also like to give way to him. Though I get very uncomfortable when it comes to sex.

Thoughts?”

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From the inbox 566

TW: Mentioning of rape

“I’m not exactly sure how to explain this… I don’t know of anyone else who feels this way… I identify as a Demiromantic Demisexual who is sex-repulsed. But this one thing, I can’t identify at all… All I know is that when I either think of a certain something or try a certain something, things get bad for me emotionally… When I try to make love with my partner (the only who seems to be immune to my sex-repulsion) I can’t even reach my first orgasm without having to push them off then rolling over and curling into a ball while sobbing uncontrollably. And if I even try to imagine having making love with someone else, the closing thing I can use to describe the feeling is rape, but I have never been raped so I don’t even know. I’ve never been assaulted or anything of the sort. I have no idea why this happens or why I feel this way… I don’t exactly know who to ask or talk to either… I’m hoping someone can help me or at least point me in the right direction.”

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From the inbox 560

“I’m a fluctuatingly sex-repulsed ace. I recently had new neighbors move into the apartment next door and the wall between our apartments, the wall that separates my bedroom from their living room, is really thin. Unfortunately, not only are they generally loud people, buy they have Really Loud S*x. In their living room. And I can hear EVERYTHING. And I don’t know what to do. I can’t deal with this anymore.”

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