“My boyfriend and I are demisexual. When it comes to media I can’t hear/watch/sense sex, sexual innuendos or anything related without having a panic attack. My brain can’t handle it and I go into this mode of self hatred because a majority of movies and books have this and I can’t watch them, cutting out a huge chunk of media for dates for my boyfriend and I. My boyfriend however can handle everything that I can’t perfectly well. Is there a term for this? Has anyone else experienced this extreme anxiety just from media?”
“I originally identified as Demi but now that I’m learning more it’s harder for me to tell the difference between Demi and Ace without strong sex repulsion. I’m married and love my partner but sex is far on the back-burner for me and I could easily do without in favor of just cuddles.”
“Hello everyone. This is not my normal approach to brainstorming solutions to my problems but I am out of ideas. So here goes. If I am to identify as anything it would definitely be asexual, panromantic, often going between sex repulsed and sex indifferent (now I hope I got all that right, it not my intent to offend anyone, I am new to all of this). Anyways, I am in a relationship with someone I really love, she is a very sexual being, but she is also very respectful to my feelings. My question is does anyone have any advice as to how we keep this relationship strong, I don’t want her to just be respectful of me and avoid sex, I want to be respectful to her and engage in sexual activities on a somewhat regular basis. Is this possible or am I just being hopeful. Anything I can do to increase it from like once a month/every six weeks to maybe two times a month?”
So, I’m sex repulsed ace and I’ve accepted this as my identity… I still struggle from time to time feeling broken and undesirable and what not but I’ve gotten better with self acceptance, esp in the last year or so.
Some things I’m still really struggling with is finding acceptance from outsiders, including within the community.
I’m a really touchy and flirty person and love intimacy such as holding hands or back rubs or kissing, but I’m just really not into the whole frick frack buisness or genitals at all and I don’t feel sexual attraction towards people. I also have a very hyper-sexualized body, I got a booty that’s Poppin’ and love to make myself up pretty… People regularly call me a tease and a fake ace and and it’s really frustrating, esp when it’s people within the community.
I’ve also had a really hard time with the idea of having a relationship, bc I really want a relationship and companionship, and I have wonderful platonic relations but it’s not the same, ya know? But I’m scared from both past experiences and what people say that a lasting relationship will never happen and it’s just really getting me down. I’d really love to hear people’s stories in respect to relationships and any advice to get over these barriers I feel that I have preventing happiness.”
first let me congratulate you on your great page, it’s a nice one
and then I’d like to ask something. I have been very sexually active since I was 15, like I masturbated a lot and I had my first sex encounter at this age, but then over years I developed a depression and the desire for sex came and went, and finally it looks like I have reached a stage where I definetly want sex but like.. I don’t want the part of doing it with someone else, because sometimes I even see myself as repulsive because of the sexual impulses I have. It’s like I like sex, I just don’t like doing it with another person and whenever I do it I usually regret it instantly and feel bad about it for a few hours after… Idk if this could be considered some kind of asexuality because it might be linked to some emotional trauma and to the fact that society links sex and romantic love in a way that it’s hard to tell the border for us who have internalized those ideas even tho I am working on deconstruct my thinking for it to be more coherent on what I think
In short, it’s like I want sex until I cum and then it’s like a lot of repulsion and elf hatred…”