“So I saw this shortly after a moral freakout on the same page about what looked like a celebrity QPP to me. (I have FB friends who troll Christian pages. Some sludge drifts across my timeline. Don’t judge me. XD ) Two rants in proximity don’t make a pattern yet, but it might be good to remind people to sharpen their arguments in case this steps up more.”
“I’m curious who had experience with qpr’s.
I want to hear from you guys about how it went for you if you would share.
I’ve been struggling a lot with it because it’s sort of that gray area where you have to define a lot of aspects of the relationship.
Like how do you started off in a way that doesn’t cause confusion?
You can pm me if you want.”
“Ideas on how to explain queerplatonic partnerships? I have a qpp that I adore, but I have a difficult time explaining our relationship to friends and family.
NOTE: I am grey-aro, sex-repulsed, and fairly touch-averse, so this relationship reflects that a lot
I usually use the “something between a friendship and a romantic relationship” a lot, but people never fully seem to understand that.
If they’re looking for more explanation I’ll say that it’s “the first part of a romantic relationship, where it’s just cuddles and dates and occasional kisses” combined with “the quiet, familiar love and domesticity of an old marriage”, but that’s a hell of a lot to say.”
“I’ve always thought the perfect relationship for me would be semi-polygamous. I’d have a boyfriend that I shared an emotional bond with, and he’d have a second girlfriend who he solely slept with and she and I were close friends.
Is that weird? I feel like it’s bizarre.”
“I identify as demi panromantic and I have a question. I’ve only had straight relationships and I find it really hard to be attached to people. (Trust issues and BPD kind of do that for you). But I would love to date a girl. I have no idea how to go about this though. Especially being asexual and also kind of realizing neither guys, girls or anything in between finds me interesting or attractive.
I mean, I just left a 5 year relationship and I wasn’t very happy when I fell out of love with him. But now there’s this hole in my life. I ended up meeting a girl that I get along with really well and I love her to pieces. When I met her, we hit it off like that. Wasn’t until the end of the night that I found out she was 14. (I’m 23.) I don’t get along with people my age and even in the groups and fandoms I join feel alien to everyone.
I love this girl and she’s my best friend but I can’t get it out of my mind that my feelings are wrong and sick.
So my question is this. How do I go out and try to make friends if I’m terrified of the world around me? How do I go out into the dating world when I’m scared that my sexuality will cut down my choices. (And the fact that I have never had sex before and most people who have expect it out of the people they date.)
Is it normal the way I feel about this girl? Is there something wrong with me mentally? I’m scared and I really need support and advice.”
I saw your post about what a squish is. I’m still fairly new to the ace world. Going on two years being openly asexual. And I wanted opinions on how to approach someone about being your squish?
As the definition stated it’s an intense feeling of attraction, liking appreciation, and/or admiration for person you usually want to get to know better and become close with. It’s different from just wanting to be friends and that there is an intensity about it and it is proportion sense of elation when they like and appreciate you back.
There have been many times in my life where I met a person or made a friend that I liked so much that I just wanted to be around them, hang out with them, and talk with them all the time. In a way that goes beyond just saying you seem cool let’s be friends. But most the time I’ve had these encounters we never even become close friends because of conflicting schedules or distance. The one time in my life this wasn’t the case was with a friend of many years and when our schedules finally matched up we quickly went from close friends, to best friends, to now being a hetero romantic asexual couple for the past year and a half.
But I digress.
In recent years I’ve made a few ace friends and there’s one in particular that I have found a kindred spirit with. They’re pretty introverted and spend most their time with family instead of friends so it’s difficult and sometimes I feel bad even attempting to ask them to do stuff and half the time I don’t even know how to ask. I just want to get to know them more but I don’t want to force them to go out, or spend money, or interact with people they don’t know either.
I also don’t want them to think it’s weird that a hetero romantic ace in a relationship has an interest in becoming squishes with an Aero ace.
Is that weird?
What should I do?”
“Where do you draw the line between someone who is just a friend and someone who is your “zucchini (someone you’re in an ace aro queer platonic relationship QPR with)”? And if you’re Demi how do those QPRs fit in with your romantic relationships? Do you feel that by having a QPR in addition to a spouse makes you non-monogamous?”