“I went to Midsumma (the start of Pride in Victoria, Australia) today and was saddened to see absolutely no Ace representation at all. Most booths had the LGBTI acronym up but no A, and those that mentioned the A had it as standing for Ally. I did a couple of surveys too, and Asexual was not listed as an orientation. I’ve been left feeling alone and outcast on one of the few days of the year I should feel included. Any cheering up messages would be welcome right now 😞”
“I just visited my local Pride organization (Boise PrideFest) and was sad to see that they mention Allies not once but twice as the A in LGBTQA (and yes, their I is left out). I feel like I should say something but 1) I’m not active in the community, and 2) I don’t want to start a fight.
I was wondering if any other Boise aces were more involved and their thoughts?”
“I’ve identified as asexual for a few years now, and I am slowly becoming more comfortable with and proud of my orientation. I’ve come out to very few people so far though (aside from people I have met through ace-related communities). I want to come out to more friends, but I’m scared of ruining the friendship. I already lost a close friend of mine last year because after I came out to him he proceeded to tell me that it was just because I wasn’t experienced enough, and he offered to “do things” with me to prove whether I was really asexual. Needless to say, that made me super uncomfortable and I was unable to salvage that relationship. I have two close female friends I’d like to come out to someday…I hope they’d accept me, but they can also be kind of judgmental of other people, and I’m scared they’d like me less or think I was weird if I came out to them. I don’t even know if they know that asexuality exists…Last time I spent time with them, I actually had an ace flag pin on my purse the whole time, and I was prepared to tell them what it was if they asked, but they didn’t. I’ve known these women since freshman year of college (we graduated a few years ago, so we’ve been friends for a while) and they’re some of the few friends I have, so I don’t want to mess anything up! Any advice?”
“I didn’t actually label myself asexual (apathetic about sex with no drive, not repulsed or opposed to sex) until about 20 (22 now). It was a confusing process. And it took at least a few months after that to label myself as panromantic asexual. I have a very supportive boyfriend and friends.
But I’ve had a very back and forth relationship with my sexuality. By that I mean going from very proud of it all the way to googling how to change myself and how I feel. It’s nice to be this way, my sexuality. But sometimes it’s also not. And I’m wondering if anyone else deals with these polarizing feelings and what coping methods they have for dealing with them.”
“I was at columbus pride walking along the parade with the ace flag as a cape. My friend beside me wearing the bi flag. I heard from behind me someone in the parade say WE SEE YOU! It felt good that we were acknowledged.”
“So last week my city celebrated pride week, and I was pleasantly surprised when I walked by the sex shop of all places and realised that it was the only place that actually had an Ace flag in their display.
It was kind of a nice feeling that even if many of the local ace people I know are sex repulsed and would never go into their shop, they still acknowledged that asexuality belongs within the LGBTQA+ comunity.
In other words, if a sex shop can accept that asexuality is a thing, than everyone can.”
“I was told some very acephobic things at toronto pride that there was no ace stickers or flags because “no one will take them” that asexuality “falls under trans anyway” and that i should go to the asexual march later in the year instead
This was all told to me by pride volunteers abd staff”
“Sometimes I feel like the only Ace that doesn’t feel like she is part of the LGBT community. Like, I went to a Pride event a few years ago as an ally and was surprised that the Ace triangle was available as a temporary tattoo. Like, I felt that I didn’t really fit in with LGBT community. I guess just because I am Ace and looking more and more like Aro (just thought I never met The One ’cause I have yet to be interested in anyone), I feel like I “pass” so easily I don’t share a lot of the issues and struggles the community does… When I was in college and heard about Aven I was like, “cool. I’m not that weird,” and that was as far as it went. I joined a few Ace communities online ’cause, you know, the memes and the solidarity for people just identifying. I kinda get the debate as to whether or not we fit in there…. I feel like we kinda get a discount card to either club…”
“Today an ex wrote me to ask why I was loud and proud about being asexual. When we were dating he knew this about me and was pretty ok with it all.
When I asked why I shouldn’t be honest and open about it his reply was that “It’s not really the type of thing to be loud and proud about”. This bothered me beyond belief.
To him it seemed it is perfectly ok to be asexual as long as I’m not proud about it or as long as I don’t go around telling people.
This is only a few days after a friend of mine told me that my openness and willingness to talk freely about my asexuality had given her confidence to be honest and open about her own asexuality with the people in her life.
Here comes my request. I want to write a post on facebook where I very clearly tell all my friends and family about my aceness and why it is important to be open about it.
I don’t want to miss anything important so I am asking you guys for ideas to what I need to add.
Also everyone knows that a post is more likely to be read is it is accompanied by a picture so i need some ideas for what that picture should be.
I would like to thank you all for your contributions already since I know you guys always come through for each other.”