From the inbox #690

“People don’t realise that aces have actually always been in the community. We were just classified in other groups because we didn’t have a name or label.

I have a personal example of this:
Back when I was teen a friend would show me pictures of “hot guys” and exclaim “isn’t he so sexy?”
Most of the time I didn’t get it and I would just start agreeing so he wouldn’t balk at me all, “what??? Really??!” When I said no.

His logic??? I must be pansexual.

If I had the word back then things would be different.
At least I know now and I’ve been feeling a lot better since!”

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From the inbox #686

“Hello! Had a realization that I thought I would share: saying asexuals can’t be part of the lgbtq+ community because we’re part of the oppressors is fundamentally the same argument as “trans women can’t be women because they have male privilege.” I’m also trans, so I hear stuff like that more often than I’d like.”

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From the inbox #653

“I found out recently that the red on the pride flag stands for sexuality (as each colour represents a different part of the human experience). Do you think this a way of devaluing Asexual people”

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From the inbox #652

“Vietnam 3 a.m.

I’m 25 y.o n’ I am alone.

but I don’t care about it.

and I am not jealous of their relationship.

so. . . why don’t they leave me alone? They ( my friend, my parents,…) always ask me when I would have a boyfriend.

why me?

They make me feel pretty stress.

If I can,… If I can say… I wanna shout out to everyone knows…

Right, we live in the dark becuz we dont dare to show who we really are.

People maybe accept the existence of GLBT. But it is not for A.


That’s so unfair!

I’ve cried many times before.

I did not know who I was.

I thought I was not straight.

It seems silly! Right?


Now I know I am a A. What’s wrong with that?

1% people in the world, this is enough!”

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From the inbox #651

“CW: Rape, corrective Rape, Aphobia, exclusionists, swearing, insulting, invalidation of asexuality.

This is a real all-rounder on when, where and why asexuals are FALSELY excluded and busts many aphobic arguments.
It’s full of resources once you scrolled past the aphobic reblogs.”


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From the inbox #630

“I know June is Pride Month and I was curious does anyone else feel uncomfortable about partaking in it? I don’t feel part of the LGBT community even when the A is included. I’m sure others feel the same way and wanted to hear what you all have to say”

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From the inbox #547

“Recently I’ve been exposed to a lot of “ace discourse” type stuff online and from LGBT peers, about how a-spec folks (especially cis heteroromantic aces and cis heterosexual aros) shouldn’t be welcome in their spaces, as it’s seen as a cultural invasion of sorts. I’ve always held a strong belief that there should be a place for asexuals in the LGBT+ community, and most gay/bi/trans people who I’ve met agree, but it’s still quite controversial (with fair points on both ends) and I’m not sure exactly how to navigate it. What are your thoughts on this matter?”

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From the inbox #501

“Hi, I have something that’s been bothering me for a bit and I was wondering if I could get an opinion from the community.
Years ago, I first identified as ace(later I realized I fall under demisexual) and when I was telling my friend about this(who is gay), I made a joke about how I should invite all my friends over for a “coming out party” and he replied with “well you can’t ‘come out’ because you aren’t gay” and today this it bothers me.
It doesn’t seem fair because I only identify as a demisexual (though I am in a heterosexual relationship right now) but for some reason I can’t “come out” or am still considered “too straight”? I don’t know. I’m confused and wanted to know what others have to say.
Thank you”

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From the inbox #446

“Hey I am happy i found your Page.

Facebook is such a big win for my queer journey in general! The road so far… I (now 17) came to the (false) conclusion of being genderfluid because of a FB-page (have a gay day had a shirt event where I looked up the flags) and later on came to identifying demimale neutrois also because of Facebook.
After I starting tumblr I first really realised what asexual meant! And after some reasearch I found out about greysexuality.
I have to stay rather stealth about my gender and sexuality on Facebook (another reason for tumblr) but I follow some sites and I am happy I found yours 😀

I’d like to tell every fellow a-spec (aro and/or ace): You are great! You are beautiful and you deserve happiness. And YOU. ARE. VALID! Okay? We have a sexuality like every other sexuality, it’s simply our orientation and we shouldn’t back down. All queer and LGBT should live in harmony and we are (if we choose to be) part of the community!

Best wishes and great holidays to all of you lovely people.”

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