“Maybe it’s just me, and this might be unpopular, but the way I feel about my asexuality is that my sexuality isn’t a major part of who I am. It’s the absence of that makes me unique. and I think that’s why it’s hard to have “ace” characters in media, why it’s hard for people to wrap their heads around having a term for a lack of something so central to their identity.”
Tag: (no) representation
From the inbox #773
“Before the renewal of jughead comics the old archie comics said that jughead didnt want to have a relationship because it seemed like his friends only got in trouble with it. We accept that as his being cannonically aroace in the time it was written, but is that definition ok (nowadays) if a person identifies as asexual or aromantic because they see cheating or trouble from relationships, or if they see it as too much to deal with?”
From the inbox #767
“Hey friends! Thought it might be cathartic to get some feedback from the community on a longterm struggle I’ve been dealing with. I’ve known I was ace since I was in middle school. But a few years ago, I fell hard for my best friend and thought that the feeling was mutual. It got to the point with this guy where I felt comfortable even letting sex be on the table as a rare thing. Long story short, he shot me down. It’s been over a year since that and I’m still not fully over it, even after taking a break from the friendship to lick my wounds. We’re back to being best friends now, and I can’t imagine losing that from my life. But it’s terrible when he goes on dates or talks about the women he is interested in. I’ve mentally accepted that we’ll never be together. But it’s so hard to move on from someone when there’s no one else to reach out to.
I’m interested in finding somebody else to wrap my heart around. The only trouble is, I don’t want to get invested in another overtly-sexual person. I don’t want to compromise who I am, unless those feelings occur naturally down the line.
My question to you is this… How can I find other aces? I’ve never met any others in real life. The dating/friend sites online are like ghost towns, and there is no ace representation at the LGBT organizations near me. I think this would be easier to cope with if I didn’t feel like I was so alone. I see you all posting and sharing such kind, uplifting things, and thought that maybe your words might help. Thank you for being here!”
From the inbox #763
“I was really disappointed when I didn’t find any ace representation at Cologne Pride this year, despite the variety of booths selling flags and a huge crowd. But my ace flag arrived today and I can’t wait to fly it at the next Pride Parade.
In all the negativity going around I just wanted to share something nice. I hope everybody has an awesome day ❤”
From the inbox #751
“Someone may have asked this before but if not I was wondering whether anyone knew of any famous artists or designers OR historical figures who are/were asexual or what might be considered asexual now even though they didn’t use that word so we can’t be sure? Sorry for the broad question! ^_^;”
From the inbox #718
“Just a quick question for the page (I could just post on the wall but then my entire friends list would see it in their newsfeed which isn’t necessarily ideal haha)- does anyone know any good songs about being ace and/or arospec? It doesn’t matter if they’re explicitly intended to be about it or just happen to fit lyrically, I just thought it would be great to have more songs to relate to in general 😊 (Any genre or style is fine!)”
From the inbox #689
“I went to the pride festival in Seoul, Korea and found all this Ace representation and education. I wanted to share with the community so people can see what wonderful inclusion and support within the queer community there is here.”
From the inbox #681
“Hello 🙂
I’m sharing this with many people online. It is a new small journal that shares stories and written art works from asexuals. My story was published in the latest publication and I’m simply delighted. Thought it would be nice to share with others so if they feel like submitting their work they can. 🙂”
From the inbox #677
“Just read a random book I’d picked off the library shelves today, and thought y’all might be interested.. It’s called Radio Silence by Alice Oseman and its representation is just, wow. There’s one main character who at the end explains explicitly that he is ace and I just, I don’t expect to randomly read /queer/ books, let alone ones which represent us – and this one is AMAZING. I totally recommend it, it just made my heart feel warm and happy 🙂
~ Anon”
From the inbox #675
“Hi there! I’m producing a collection of interviews conducted by my friend Conor Coyne (instagram @uncledaddyy) for a TV series pilot.
I’m a freelance producer (instagram @julesphamilton), spend most of my time as a writing assistant to futurist Gray Scott.
For our show “Conor Coyne Presents,” Conor pretends to be a different character for each interview. Some of the people he’ll be talking with on the show are familiar actors, academics, and everyday people on interesting topics.
We wanted to interview an authentic asexual or two in NYC, downtown on West Broadway today and tomorrow at 6:30pm. The nature of the interview is not entirely serious, but has compassionate and serious humanitarian undertones. For example, we might bring in some models and surround our interviewee with them as Conor asks questions to learn more about asexuality and asexual communities.
Conor is a silly and warm guy, and our goal with the show is to break taboos and get people talking and to feel good. It’s an opportunity to spread more awareness and positive information about asexuals which I think many communities are not aware of.
We’re paying for transportation to the location via Uber and paying for transportation back home via Uber, and the rate for the interview is $100 for approximately 3 hours.
I wanted to reach out here to see if there was a way to send a message out to your community to see if anyone was interested in the opportunity. Thank you so much for your time and help! (Happy 4th of July) 🙂”