“my friend and I took a pic together for Asexual awareness week (we’re both aromantic and asexual)”
“So my best friend identifies as demi romantic, he also still has his “V card” at age 23 (I see nothing wrong with this, I love him to death, he’s amazing). But his other friends and his family (he’s very close to them, they’re important to him, and in most cases very supportive and encouraging) they’re all about pressuring him with the usual… “When are you getting a girlfriend?” “Bro, you need to get laid LOL” and since everyone else identifies me as female, and we’re so close, we get shipped HARD. We’re perfect for each other (yeah, duh, that’s why we’re best friends), so that’s awkward enough. But he actually WANTS a girlfriend. He’s a very romantic guy, he loves romance… But he’s a cute little geek, he’s not all muscles, he’s tall and lanky and “invisible to women”. Plus, he’s demi romantic so he’s not willing to just jump in bed with someone just for fun (you’d be surprised how fast of a turn off that weirdly is).
He’s tried dating sites but I guess he’s bad at them, and he’s an old soul anyway, he’s better with in person interacting.
I wish I could console him that he’s awesome as he is and that waiting it out is fine, but I’m worried he might become bitter over time.
So how else can I help him? I’m still his best friend, I got his back, I love him you death but I can’t find a girlfriend for him, all the women I know are taken or are attracted to aesthetics he doesn’t meet.”
(He’s demiromantic, heterosexual)
“I am so sick and tired of people always assuming my friend/brother is my friend. And I am even more sick when people respond to my “no, we are just friends” by “oh, you just wait and see!”.
Not every hug is romantic! Not every shared laugh is romantic! Not every prolonged stare is sexual, maybe we are just appreciating the person as a human being!
I am not labeling myself as an ace/demi/grey just yet, I am a nineteen year old girl and feel utterly lost and confused. What I do know is that every time my mom tells me that I need a man, and every time some family member tells me I am old enough to marry and that I should start thinking about establishing a family, and every time my best friend tells me I should just give it a try and let someone fuck me, I feel as if they punched me in my face.
And I know I am wrong for getting mad at them for it, and that the things they tell me are considered normal for my age. But there is so much pressure, and sometimes I feel like crying.
I don’t know what romantic love feels like, I don’t know how sex can feel good and even natural, but most of all, I don’t know how to be normal, how to not have to be thinking about it all, considering my every move I do next in my life. I want to be like everyone else, I want to love somebody, to have the one person that I can share my life with.
But how can I, if I am constantly doubting whether I am capable of those kind of feelings and desires?
I hope I am just a late bloomer, because this doesn’t let me sleep at night.”
“Beautiful, fragile, shadowy and faceless (the last one so that everyone can relate) This was my friend’s last piece of art to support the Ace community and asking me to participate as the model (although a pan but also a huge supporter) – hope you find these interesting and as always best of wishes to all of the ace community 😊 ”
“I’m a quoiromantic ace who tends to get jealous when my bff starts dating someone but doesn’t really want to date him myself. It feels a little silly, and I certainly haven’t told him about it, I just wanted anyone else who feels the same way to know you’re not alone and it’s not something wrong with you.”
“I have this really good friend. We’ve basically met online, but she’s the best friend I hve and I care deeply for her. I found out I was ace a few months ago (I’m a genderfluid afab teen) and up until now I had the belief that I was panromantic (I thought for a while I was bisexual). After getting into the ace community, I consequently found out a lot more about the aro community, and this brought me many questions. I always thought I was romantic, I dreamed my whole life about it, and I was so convicted that I felt something romantic to people. The problem is that I realised now that what I feel for this friend is everything a romantic situation should be, except I have no romantic feelings involved – or do I? I had thought about this before, but then I always felt weird with the idea of kissing her and all the touchy stuff datefriends do. I saw a lot about squishes and aros and aces, but everything just makes me more confused. I don’t know now how romantic feelings are supposed to feel, if me feeling weird about kisses and stuff is just my aceness talking, or if I’m just misunderstanding everything. I kept thinking of past relationships and I realised I always felt like this, I would like the person but always feel weird about touchy things.
I like labels a lot; I always felt out of place, and when I found out the term ‘genderfluid’ I felt like I finally could fit somewhere, and I felt like that about being ace too, so right now I’m really freaking out about not knowing if I’m romantic or not. This friend of mine knows all my labels and she’s very supportive, but I’m scared of talking to her about this – even just considering her a squish – and scaring her, or losing her because of this. She’s straight and romantic, so it makes me even more apprehensive.
I’m really confused so I was wondering if anyone could help me with this. Thank you!”
“Ok I was hoping maybe you guys could help me out. I really hit it off with this guy and we are just friends but it’s started to become obvious we like each other so I told him I’m ace and he seemed to take it really well. Its been a week or so and now I can just tell he doesn’t like me as much and it really sucks because I thought he might be okay with it and I think I started to really really like him which doesn’t happen a lot with me. My friend asked him about it where he said hed already be dating me if I wasn’t ace because “i don’t want to have to break up with her later on because of it.” So I’m a little sad about it even though I expected it and id feel too bad to keep leading him on if I know he’s not gonna even try and I feel like it would be awkward to still be friends now that we surpassed that and I just don’t know what to do anymore. He knows I’m sad and wants to help but I can’t just tell him he’s the reason I am…”