“i came across this form of intolerance and i’m genuinely confused, distraught, and disgusted. apparently, there are people who view asexuality as a disability. it could have just been someone trolling, but i felt i needed to share this somewhere.”
So I’m doing a project for my alevel art. We have to promote a cause or raise awareness to something that means a lot to ourselves.
For me I wanted to look at the oppression and discrimination within the lgbt+ community.
I was hoping you guys could help me do some primary research and ask the follows of this page about exclusion inside the community. What people have said that may have been hurtful or oppressive.
But for this it’s vital that it’s exclusion made by other members of the lgbt+ community.
Experiences and quotes would be appreciated very much
I’m not just looking at the exclusion for asexuals either, but any sexuality in the community that had been disregarded by another.
I believe that we can’t be accepted by others if we can’t accept eachother
“Is anyone else here ace and bipolar and has to deal with the hypersexuality symptom of mania? I feel like in other people’s minds they will invalidate each other. If someone knows I’m ace, they might be less likely to believe I’m hypersexual during a manic episode. If someone knows I’m bipolar, they might be less likely to accept I’m ace due to the “crazy sex fiend” stereotype.
It’s also so annoying to deal with balancing both! Even though my asexual identity is just bc I’m not attracted to people, and I still sometimes have a sex drive, it’s still fairly low. But then during a manic episode it can skyrocket. Which is just inconvenient for so many reasons on top of typical mania issues. (Example one: impulse sexual encounters and then the people thinking they’ll still have the same chance of getting in my pants when I’m stable.)
Just wanted to vent and find out if I’m not alone?
P.S. I’ve also encountered aphobes who are literally aphobic BECAUSE they experience hypersexuality. “I’m hypersexual and it’s hard so I think aces are the worst and also can’t be queer.” I think that’s the worst one for me.”
“CW: acephobia, TERFs
I get into mud slinging fights with TERFs on Twitter sometimes. Apparently their tactics now include portraying asexuality as a risk of puberty blockers, and explicitly portraying it as a horrid pitiable fate instead of a valid and healthy sexual orientation. Because why not throw aces under the bus while they’re persecuting trans folk and calling it feminism. </vent>”
“Tw rape mention and other gross things
I joined a group on Kik earlier today (# gunsgunsguns) because I needed help identifying some firearms, everything was going well and I stayed for a while, talking to them and having a good time, I had mentioned I was a minor pretty early in the chat. Anyway, the conversation later turns to sex, okay fine, i mention I’m asexual and then it all goes go shit, I calmly explain it to them while they pull the usual aphobic crap and this all goes on for a while, they repeatedly ask me about my sexual interests and I answer as vaguely as possible in an attempt to get them to understand, eventually this one guy who’s Kik is waffletime98 if anyone would like to know, decides it would be fun to “joke” about raping me so I realize I’m not asexual. I express my wild discomfort with his behavior and he doesn’t stop. I leave the group after that and I get a message from him saying “don’t think you can escape this cock” and of course I block and report him. It was generally a bad time 0/10 wouldn’t recommend”