From the inbox #837

“I had two ladies come up to me today and ask me out. I told them I was really flattered but I’m asexual and looking for that kind of relationship . I expected a bit of back lash like I get with men. But both women lit up and say that’s great! Asked if they could give me their numbers and maybe we could all be friends. I couldn’t believe how easily they excepted my sexuality and didn’t give me back lash or try to convince me that I just haven’t met the right person. Must be the most positive experience I’ve ever had and gives me hope that one day I can be open without ridicule.”

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From the inbox #820

“So social media seems inundated with negativity and polarizing debates today, in case you needed something awesome:

Talked to my mom about being asexual today. Got an awesome reaction which I wish for all of you.

Mom listened and then said, “I can totally see that suiting you very nicely dear. I love you. How can I support your choices?”

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From the inbox #816

“I came out as initially asexual and then Demi-sexual and finally (because I finally figured myself out) as pan-romantic, gray-asexual to my mom. It’s kind of upsetting that each time her reaction has always been ‘you’ll find someone eventually/you just haven’t found the right one yet’. However, I came out with my ace-ness to my aunt, and she was just like ‘well, that makes sense’ and was totally cool with it! I’m just super excited that someone in my family is cool with my ace-ness!”

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From the inbox #813

“Hey! I’d really appreciate it if you could share this on the page as a little bit of hope for any ace person who feels as though they’re not wanted in the LGBT+ community
So last year I went to pride for the first time and it was one of the best days of my life and the whole time I was there, wearing my asexual flag as a cape, I heard no bad-mouthing of aces.
There was no mentions that we don’t belong, and I even met and saw a few other people proudly displaying their ace flags for everyone to see. There was also plenty of ace things to buy (I got a beanie which I wear all the time now)
But one memory that I will always treasure was when I was with my friends at a sexual health stall and they asked if we wanted to do a chlamydia test to get a free sperm key ring. And when one of the women noticed my flag she said “do you want to do one? Even though you don’t experience sexual attraction, doesn’t mean you can’t have or even enjoy having sex”
She was the first person I have ever met who completely understood what being asexual means without being a member of the ace community. (I asked and she said she was a lesbian.)
I just wanted to share this with other aces to show that there are people in the LGBT+ community who know about us, understand our orientations and accept us within the community as much as everyone else 💙🌈

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From the inbox #810

“Does youre friend have trouble to accept asexuality

I was hinting my friends, i din t was interest in sex
They wanted to take me to the hore house

And now…..
I go to my best (female) friend every zaterday
And make fake sexy pictures with itother

And put it on my friends whatsapp group
She thinks it funny

But it kinda sad
That my friends only accept me ,if i have sex
(I am male virgin)”

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From the inbox #777

“I’m wondering if anyone else doesn’t like to actually call themselves asexual because others peoples commentary on the subject and it just doesn’t seem worth the argument”

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From the inbox#741

“Greetings to you all. I just wanted to take the time to thank you for this page and all that you have given light to.

I just want to share my experience with an Asexual partner who is also FTM Trans.

Myself, I am not Asexual. Far from it. In fact when my Partner came out to me as both Trans and Asexual, boy did I have a lot on my plate.

I grew up in a sheltered life in the Bible Belt and smack dab in the middle of KKK support. So I have always heard the hell fire and brimstone rhetoric if only being two genders and love between man and woman.

How women are supposed to be treated and sex is something a man has to have and women should just like it. So Trans, Asexual, different sexual orientations? You will burn in hell for such ways of thinking.

I always knew I was different. I grew and shaped into the person I knew I was. Sure, coming to terms with who I was was no easy feat and my parents to this day haven’t fully accepted me. [I am 28] I soon found people attractive no matter what the gender. My crushes ranged from men and women and I dated a bit of both.

It wasn’t until last year that I met the person of my dreams. A few months of dating and they came out to me as Trans. Oh boy did that change my way of thinking. A bit of talking, some research as to what they truly were and it wasn’t that hard if A stretch to just fully accept the person I was in love with.

A little bit later He told me they were on the Asexual spectrum. Once again, I was met with a while new change. Once again…research, talking it out and just flat out being understanding on their wants and needs, it wasn’t so hard to grasp.

What does bother be is the Taboo and stigma of having sex with an Asexual or that sex will almost never be a thing and it’s not going to make a relationship. It will break without it.

I hang my head in shame that this way of thinking exists. I blame the area I live for part of it, but just the fact that people still think love or sex is so clear cut and defined. Even when I was married, I never really thought sex was needed to make a marriage work. Some days I wanted it, others the thought of it didn’t excite me. Other times I needed other things before I felt the need for sex.

It wasn’t until I met my Partner and read about others that have experienced this, that its ok to not want, need, or even partake in anything sexual.

Being cuddled, hugs for hours or even just simply being held is enough. I love him for who he is. A Trans, Asexual. And I am proud to know this page is full of so many others like this. You all have opened my eyes to so many things.

TL;DR – my Trans Partner is on the Asexual spectrum and we have never felt that sex has to be the end all be all. I hope the stigma that sex needs to be a thing will end. I am so happy to have them, and this page rocks. Thank you for existing.”

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From the inbox #723

“I just want to say. I love you my ace family. It is so hard to find someone who doesn’t think your worthless for not wanting sex. I may never find a partner in this life. But I have you guys that make me feel accepted just the way I am. You mean the world to me

From the inbox #696

“I’d just like to message you since I’m seeing a lot of people worried about telling their parents about being ace, and all the stories of people who have already told their parents and have had them not understand.
It was my mum who discovered the term asexuality, after looking it up. She was the one who explained it to me, and who helped me understand what that meant for me as a person. She has been completely understanding. My gran and brother also absolutely understand and support me. My aunt did initially say I should see a doctor, but quickly came round to seeing it as a sexuality and not a dysfunction.
I came out at work jist recently, and my work colleagues had questions about it, but are also totally accepting and seem to be on board with what it means.
So, if people are ever scared or unsure, I’d like them to know that it’s not absolutely certain that you won’t be understood by the people you care about.”

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From the inbox #454

“So I’m a very romantic Ace. Through explainating what Ace is I’ve helped a few people discover that they are Ace. Typically most non-ace/Aro people understand the concept pretty quickly, or atleast don’t care enough to question further. However, one of my friends is trying to wrap her head around still being interested in relationships without the sexual attraction. She accepts it and is being very polite about it, so I’d like to help her understand it. Do you have any suggestions as to what I could say to help explain it to her?”

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