From the inbox #721

“I currently identify as maybe somewhere between gray-ace and demi. I think about sex and often enjoy the thought, and I enjoy watching porn/etc, but every single time I have had a sexual – or even intimate/romantic, no sex – experience with someone it has left me with major panic attacks for the next few days. Like my body is rejecting it. At the time of the experience I think I feel fine, and *most* of the people I’ve spent these times with have been very sweet and communicative. But then a few hours after they leave I start feeling horrible – my stomach and chest feel like they are going to burst, and when friends ask me why I think I feel this way I literally can’t answer because I don’t know, I’m not even thinking of anything in particular. Does anyone else experience this? Does anyone have any idea what the hell this means? Has anyone overcome it (and how)??”

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