From the inbox #715

“CW mentions of rape, child rape,

So ok, lately after reading more and interacting more with the ace community I’m starting to think I might actually be ace. The reason I’m confused is because I have had sex, a lot, and there have been plenty of times I’ve enjoyed it. It wasn’t until a few weeks ago I was reminded that hypersexuality is a symptom of mental health problems. Seeing as I suffer from being raped once when I was about 5, and again when I was 22 more things have been calling into place. Virtually everytime I’ve had sex it felt like a compulsion and i feel like I’ve confused this “compulsion” with “attraction”.

I’m not saying my trauma made me ace, instead I think my trauma made it harder for me to realize I was ace. There are a lot of other little things that have me questioning myself and whether or not I fall on the ace spec. Just the fact that I can’t explain what attraction feels like, or that I don’t feel that draw I guess makes me wonder.

It’d be nice to hear other people’s perspectives on this as I don’t have anywhere else to ask .

Sorry for the bluntness”

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