From the inbox #678

“Good evening, I hope you’re well. I’m not sure if I’m doing this right or if this is allowed, but I have nowhere else to go…

I’m part of a facebook group that’s primary intent is to be a safe space for people in every possible facet. From sexuality to gender indentity/expression to sex work to support for survivors of abuse/assault, you name it. Since my joining, I’ve felt like it’s the safest place on the internet I’ve ever been able to express myself because the group’s mods/mins and members ensure that everyone knows they are valid.

Today, they held a pole to see if they should allow members that are ace/aro exlusionary, people that feel ace/aro individuals are NOT of the LGBTQIA+ community.

What they don’t understand is that they just casually put to a vote whether or not they should legitimize ace/aro exlusionists.

What they don’t understand is that by potentially legitimizing those people, they’ve successfully put the ace/aro community back on the chopping block, where we nervously await our fate, to see if we will ever belong, or to see if we are even recognized as real and legitimate people.

It was so hurtful and scary, to feel so… inconsequential by the one place I thought I’d be safe… Like I should just shrug off my ace mantle and pretend I’m a “prude” again. Or that I should go back to disclosing my history of sexual assault – a very horrible experience – with people so that they might back off…

I feel lost. And I just felt like you were the only group that might understand.

Thank you for letting me vent and for your wonderful page. 🙂

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