From the inbox #657

TW: Abuse

“I’m an aro/ace. I discovered it has almost a year, all this time I thought I was straight.
Well, my mom and my stepfather used to go to a farm almost every weekend because the owner was my stepfather’s boss. The guy was on his 50~60s, I think. The thing is… I was a kid. When they started going there, I was just 7 or 8 years old.
That guy started to pass his hands on my legs and on my arms. One year later, he started to try putting them on my “things”. I really wanted him to stop, I’d slap his hand, I’d tell him to stop, go to somehere where people would be… But I didn’t have enough courage to tell anyone about this – I didn’t even have the courage to TALK with my mom, on the first place. And this happened until I was 12. One day, my mom saw it and was angry as hell. At both of us. She told me that I was actually liking it, because I didn’t tell anything. Well, of course – everyone wants this. After she calmed down, though, she understood the situation.
So, what does this have to do with the page?
My mom thinks I’m aro/ace because of this.
Does your parents act like this as well (if you had been abused or something)? If so, how did you convince them that this isn’t a choice – and that this fact doesn’t affect in anything?
Thank you!”

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