From the inbox #640

TW: Rape, abuse, acephobia

“I’ve seen some similar things on your page lately, but I read an article tonight about how people generally blame the victims of sexual violence for the crime because if they hadn’t said “no” or had “just been nicer” things wouldn’t have gone that far. I see that so much with the “you’re just ace because you were raped” when really I was raped because I was ace. Because I said “no”. Because that man decided my sexuality wasn’t valid and took it from me. And when people turn it around like that, it invalidates both my sexuality and the trauma I endured. I just don’t know how to set people right. I want them to understand how dangerous the erasure of asexuality can be. They want to pretend it doesn’t exist while simultaneously using it to say my trauma was my own fault.”

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