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“My girlfriend is an Ace and she’s sex repulsed, and I completely respect all her boundaries and what she’s comfortable with and what she isn’t, I love her more than anything and would never do anything she didn’t want me to. And recently we started to play around with things and she told me she was loving it and wanted to keep exploring, etc and I kept checking that she was sure that it’s what she wanted and she kept telling me yes. But now she’s wanted to stop so we have. But she tells me that no matter what, after any sort of sexual act she starts to hate herself and feel guilty. She said no matter how much she enjoys it and wants it, she always ends up hating herself. I was just wondering if I could get some advice on it and if there’s anything that could be done to help her not feel that way because she wanted to do these things but yet she falls into this state. It doesn’t matter to me if there’s nothing that can be, I love her no matter what. But I would really just like some advice on how she could combat that feeling of guilt and self-hatred, along with anything I could possibly do to help.”

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