From the inbox #520

” I just need to see if I’m alone in this situation or not. I just need some other point of view really. I’m a 19 year old girl and I have called myself asexual for over 4 years, and have come to terms with the fact that I do not want to have sex with my significant other. However, it’s the very notion of having a significant other that bothers me. Am I the only one that thinks that being asexual is putting a lot of weight on my shoulders? Is being the kind of asexual that I am kind of restricting me to only be in relationships with other asexuals? The asexual community represents about 1% of the population. Let’s say that half of them are men (I’m heteroromantic), so that brings the amount of people I could be with down to 0.5%. Now let’s say that I won’t be able to be with 2/3 of them due to extreme age and/or language differences. And now let’s say that I won’t be able to meet even half of them in my life time, and that some of those that I meet are simply incompatible with me because of our different personnalities. After seeing things that way, am I the only one that feels like I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life? Seeing as I am asexual and not interested in having sex, do you think that I’d have a chance to find a heterosexual understanding enough of this situation Because honestly, the more I think about it, the more I feel hopeless…”

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