From the inbox #447

“I’m a biromantic ace female – I thought I was straight when I was younger, but since then I’ve had a few crushes on girls and also realized I’m asexual. I’m 26 and I’ve never dated. Part of my mind is hyper-romantic (I’ve had strong crushes on people and I also enjoy writing romance) but on the other hand I am terrified of people showing romantically interest in me (possibly because I assume there’s sexual interest involved, maybe also because “Mr./Ms. Right” hasn’t shown up yet). I also don’t feel particularly interested in having a partner right now – relationships are complicated, and I like living on my own with my cat. I really like being independent. But at the same time, sometimes I feel like I’m missing out because I don’t have a partner and I’m not even trying to date… Can anyone relate?

I see so many people my age pairing off and having babies, and even though I don’t want that right now (or maybe ever), I feel like I’m missing out and it makes me sad sometimes.”

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