From the inbox #390

“So, I’ve been loitering here for a while, but this is the first time I’ve ever felt the need to ask advice. This is a bit of a brain dump, so bear with me? I identify as ace and grey-aro, and I told my boyfriend this the other week. It took me a long time to find the courage. We’ve been dating about 2 months, and there’s always been that feeling of awkwardness, I guess? I thought it would go away when I told him, but it hasn’t. I don’t think he really got it at all. It doesn’t help that he lives far away, so we don’t see each other that often and when we do I find myself making excuses. I’m fairly introverted, and I find some people much more exhausting than others, and it’s awful, but he’s one of them. I feel terrible, because everyone tells me how great of a couple we are, and how they were certain we were perfect for each other, and I do like him, but… I don’t know, it just feels off? And I’ve tried to have this conversation, but I can’t get the words out. All I want is someone I can watch crap telly with, talk about geeky things with, and laugh with. Maybe a snuggle or two, but anything more is kinda, meh? And he doesn’t get that. I don’t know what to do. Is this weird uncomfortableness normal? Should I be worried about it? How do I make this work if I don’t know what’s wrong with me? I’m fairly certain I shouldn’t be feeling this way. I’m lost. I don’t want to disappoint anyone, especially him, but I just felt so much better when I was single. Is that terrible of me?
Sorry for the stream of thought. Any advice would be much appreciated!”

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