From the inbox #303

“Hi everyone! I will be giving a speech on asexuality and aromanticism at my former university’s LGBT+ gathering in a couple of weeks (I’m a grey-romantic ace myself). It was originally supposed to focus on the linguistics – all those wonderful new terms for different types of attraction/orientation etc. that are so imporant to us – but because of Reasons, it will be more about asexuality 101 and what it is like to be an ace in a world where sex sells everything.

I have my own experience to use and also a lot from this page and AVEN to lean on when preparing for the inevitable course of discussion, but I’d like to show how different aces/aros see themselves and the world, and I’d definitely love to talk at least a bit about the demi/grey identities as well. Could those of you who feel like it post a bit in the comments about these three things?

1. What does being ace/aro/demi mean to you? How do you explain it to others? (I’m counting on people here being able to put the feeling in words better than I could )

2. When/if you try to understand what this “attraction” that allosexuals feel is like, how do you define it for yourself? (e.g. the earlier post with “I guess it’s kind of like when you really want pizza”)

3. What do you find the most puzzling about other people and/or the world in general, from your ace/aro/demi point of view?

Any pet peeves or stories about people being… well… people… are more than welcome, too. (I’ll start: recently there was this guy who got all worried about me and tried to persuade me I have either cancer or brain tumor when he learned I was ace. Yay. I bet I’m not alone in that.)

Just to make it clear, I might quote you, either in English or translated to Czech. (The Czechs/Slovaks here are free to answer in Czech/Slovak, of course )

Thank you for reading this and thank you for answering! I’ll try my best to make it count.”

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