From the inbox #253

“I know a lot of us have experienced intolerance from the LGBT community, and it’s so sad that a lot of those people cannot see that the way they erase and look down on us is the same way that many cisgender, heterosexual people look down on LGBT people. But it’s not completely hopeless for the LGBT community. There are some LGBT groups that accept us, even in the most unlikely places. When I first learned of asexuality, I was ecstatic, there were other people like me, and I wasn’t broken. I dove into the online asexual community, but I found myself wishing for people I could interact with in person that would wholeheartedly accept me the way the ace community had. On a whim, I asked a gay friend of mine who was involved in the local LGBT community if their group might possibly be accepting of an asexual. I wasn’t optimistic, given that we were in a rural, conservative area, but I figured it couldn’t hurt to ask. I was amazed when he answered without hesitation that they’d love to have me. I asked if he was sure, and he told me that the president of the LGBTetc. group was asexual. Not only did this group accept asexuals as part of the community, they had an asexual as their leader. I came to them timid, and unsure of my place within the community and the world. But when I moved away three years later, I left knowing that I would always have a place with them if I returned, I left knowing that I had an LGBT family, because I was a part of the LGBT community. Unfortunately, not all LGBT groups are as accepting as mine was, but I’m optimistic that this will change. Maybe not as fast as I’d like them to, but they will come around. Until then, I just have to keep my chin up.”

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