From the inbox #25

“Hello! I have a couple questions about asexuality. I’ve been looking around for answers and I keep getting mixed results. Basically, I’m trying to figure out if what I am is asexual or not. I feel physical attraction, but for me sex is a romantic thing. I do it as a sign of love, not for the sake of having sex, you know. If right now I never had sex again for the rest of my life, I’d be fine. But at the same time, I’m still sexually attracted to my partner. It’s like saying “wow, that’s a good sandwich”, but at the same time being fine if I didn’t eat it. I’m sorry if this doesn’t make sense- it’s hard for me to explain it properly. My friend said I might be demisexual, but it’s not like a strong emotional bond makes me want to have sex, either. My partner and I have been together for 6 years, and I have a very strong bond with him. We do sexual stuff, but for me I do it because I love him, not because I feel the need to have sex. But sometimes I want to, but it’s because I love him. Like giving someone a hug, you know?”

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