From the inbox #231

“To be asexual is to be invisible. Silenced. Oppressed. Actively written out of existence. Ignored. Ostracised. To be asexual is to be one who defines themselves by what they are not, to be the one per-cent of the population that experiences little to no sexual attraction to any individual, and what little sexual attraction may exist is so weak and fleeting that it may as well be considered non-existent when compared to the saturation of sex, sexuality, and lust that surrounds the asexual community daily. To be asexual is to be confused as to one’s identity and then to fear to reveal oneself to others because of the lack of wider awareness given the size of the community, the complexity of the topic, and the threat to the patriarchal paradigm that the existence of asexuality represents. To be asexual is to be misrepresented as something else, to ‘pass’ as hetero/homo/bi-sexual because of the lack of a definite community based upon the perceived actions of a few within the community. To be asexual is to fear, to be afraid of waking alone each morning because the concept of possibly never being able to look at a partner and say definitely ‘I want to have you, I want you to have me’ and/or to actually meet on a sexual level is a deal breaker for too many allosexuals. To be asexual is a gift that few are able to experience, a gift that presents its guardian with the ability to view the world with an asexual light—much like the allosexual has the gift to view the world with a sexual light. To be asexual is to be a reminder to the allosexual community that sexuality, sexual attraction, and sex do not an individual make. To be asexual is to be strong and brave; to be asexual is to be human.”

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