From the inbox #230

“I recently met someone and we’re dating online, but she has a VERY high sex drive. Like, REALLY high. She’s extremely kinky. And I’m gray ace. She knows this, but I don’t think she knows what it means. She still treats me like I’m completely straight. In late October I’m going to meet her, and she’s made it VERY clear that she wants to sleep with me… I told her I’m really nervous about the idea, and she said if I’m not ready then I don’t have to do it, but I’d feel like a jerk for leading her on like this. Because I don’t want to have sex with her. She turns me on, but I don’t want our genitals to go anywhere near each other… and I can’t tell her that. Whenever we videochat, she pretty much just flirts the whole time, and she’s turned on the entire time… what do I do in October?”

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