From the inbox #228

“I often feel alienated from both mainstream sexuality, and from the demisexual community. Things like the “demisexual bingo” make me feel like I don’t belong because I ultimately warm to people sexually quite fast, although I still have the experience of very rarely experiencing sexual attraction without physical and emotional intimacy and interpersonal attraction having happened first. I’m not sure if this is a result of a blind men and the elephant scenario with different people slicing the concept of demisexuality differently; or if it’s just the result of me being normal but really bad at the social-performative aspects of sexuality.”

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