From the inbox #183

“Okay so I am having this…problem? Idk. I was in a very long relationship with a girl (I am a girl too btw) and we broke up a few months ago. Having Sex was never a big topic in our relationship. We both identify as ace and in the beginning we tried some stuff because “that’s what you do with your partner” but she didn’t really like it and I just didn’t care. Now there is this guy I really like and I am freaking out. I don’t know how to act and react. I can totally see myself in a relationship with sexual Intercourse but I am kind of afraid of it. And he does know that I am asexual and that me and my ex-girlfriend never really had Sex and I think that it kind of scares him away, you know? I am also freaking out over having my first time and being with a guy in general. I am just not used to it.
Does anyone has an advice for me? I don’t know how to tell him that I like him (it’s weird to be single again after 4 years I don’t know how to do things like that anymore) and that I don’t mind having Sex at all. Everything I come up with sounds really weird.”

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