From the inbox #179

“I suffer from endometriosis. For those of you who don’t know, it’s a condition where endometrial tissue (from the uterus) grows abnormally around the uterus and spreads to other places, such as the bladder and intestines, causing severe bleeding and pain. Every time I get my period, the endometriosis grows. I’ve tried different forms of birth control to stop my periods, but the hormones affect me psychologically. I decided a long time ago that I absolutely never want to be pregnant. Being asexual, I especially don’t plan on doing the act that gets you pregnant. So I’ve begged 4 different doctors for an ablation, a procedure where they remove the lining of the uterus. But nobody will do it because the surgery would make me unable to conceive and they say I’m “too young”. They say that at 25, I’m in my prime baby making years. Even though I’ve fully explained my situation, being asexual and all, they still insist that I’ll probably change my mind some day. I find this extremely condescending in many ways. Firstly, I’ll never change my mind about the way I feel towards sex. I have no desire to do it. Ever. I was born this way and can’t change it. End of story. Secondly, just because I’m a woman doesn’t mean I have to become pregnant some day. I’m not a baby factory. Having children is not my sole purpose in life. If I say my mind is set on not raising a family, my mind is set. So, does anybody have advice for me? What can I do? How can I convince a doctor that asexuality is real and that I simply don’t want kids? Thank you.”

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