From the inbox #174

“Whoever made this page – you fucking legend! I’m 23 years old and I live in Newcastle, Australia.
Asexuality is the orientation that I feel most comfortable identifying with. I have never desired any sexual relationship with anyone and for a long time I thought it was because there was something intrinsically wrong with me. I thought that if I didn’t desire sex, I was somehow not entirely human, and thus could not live a wholesome and happy life.
I have been told all the classic diatribes that asexuals often hear, like “It’s just a phase, you’ll grow up one day”, “is it a religious belief?” or “How do you know if you’ve never tried sex”. In addition, girls I have dated in the past have taken great offence when I tell them I have no sexual interest in them, even when I try and explain that I have never had sexual interest in anyone at all. This made me feel almost like I was some sort of cold and unfeeling sociopath, incapable of connecting with other human beings properly.
Once I starting researching why I am the way Pages like this comfort me, as it makes me know that there are indeed many others out who don’t experience sexual attraction. It freed me and made me realize that my lack of sexual attraction is just what makes me me, just like someone’s height, hair colour or shoe size.
I’ve been in a relationship with a girl for almost two years now and we are both open to one another about our mutual lack of sexual attraction. We often talk about how every relationship has their own elements that are completely unique to that relationship. The fact that we don’t have sexual intimacy just a part of our relationship. All the love is definitely still there. When people have the impertinence to ask us about our sex life, we tell them that it’s simply none of their business.
I’m definitely content with myself and my sexual orientation now, much of which I owe to activists like you. I’m doing my best to encourage those in my own community to show empathy for asexuality, as well as assuring others that it’s okay to feel comfortable with their sexuality. Although I have received a lot of criticism in doing so, the people who matter have been loving and accepting about it.
Thank you for all you have done and thank you for taking the time to read this message.”

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