From the inbox #138

“For three years, I have been happily asexual, aromantic, agender and no-contact (I don’t like people hugging me, but I am ok to hug people in certain situations). Content with my plans to not have another relationship, I haven’t been seeking one out… But then I met the most wonderful agender person… They’re smart, caring, happy, charming and I am properly smitten. My issue here is that they know that I’m no-contact and ace. I’m trying not to think ahead and wonder what would happen if we ever did form a relationship, but right now I don’t know how to broach the subject – if they know I’m ace and no-contact, how do I let them know that I’m open to the idea with them without being too full-on? (Not 100% sure that they are interested in me, though we’ve been spending a lot of time together recently). They’re very huggie, and I would be happy to at least try hugging them… But they know I’m not huggie, so they haven’t tried, out of respect to me! Any advice would be much appreciated, as we’re both a little awkward around each other and I can’t figure out how to subtley bring this up!”

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