From the inbox #1316

“My ex boyfriend and I dated for almost 3 years. When we first started dating I told him I didn’t care for sex. Then I realized how important it was to him (and didn’t want to seem weird) so I pretended to like to have sex with him and explained, it must have been my other boyfriends I didn’t like. Fast forward to 2018 and my new friend mentions her husband thinks she is asexual (it was the first time I had heard this word outside of a biology class) and I asked her about it. Them I began researching like crazy. Since knowing this is a real thing, and I am asexual myself, I have embraced this A LOT and completely stopped having sex with him. We have since broken up, but he really wants us to work things out. When we broke up he mentioned us not having sex anymore and I explained that I don’t want to with him or anyone. He said that wasn’t true because when we first started dating I did all the time. If he seriously wants to work things out, he has to accept this about me, but I don’t know what to say to him, or how to say it, so that he knows I am serious and this is very important to me. Any advice?”

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