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“Basically, I was wondering how people defined desire for a romantic relationship. I’ve identified as aro for a while, but recently I’ve been having some really pleasant dreams where I’m in what I assume is a romantic relationship?

It’s always a girl – i think the same girl, not that I know who it is…we definitely hug and I want to kiss, and we are obviously close…which sounds pretty romantic? But then it’s not about anybody I actually know …I know sex thoughts don’t invalidate asexuality, but I’m not sure the same can be said for aro…

So yeah…how do people differentiate romantic and platonic. Does romantic (if it is romantic) thought mean I’m not aro. And finally, is it weird to have romantic-y feelings towards girls and enbies, and more platonic ones about guys and still id as bi/pan?

Thanks a bunch

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