From the inbox #1047

“I’m asexual. I didn’t know until after I had been married for over ten years and had 3 children. Now it’s causing a huge amount of on tension and fighting and disconnection between my husband. He needs sex and I don’t want it. But i know it’s destroying our relationship. Now he’s talking alot about wanting my permission to to see an escort once a year. I don’t know what to say. But that seems not helpful and a road to separation rather than helping our marriage. I’ve suggested counseling, he’s not so interested in counseling but I think he’ll go. Does anyone else have any success stories from similar experiences?”

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