I identify as an asexual, but I also…i forget what it’s called… when you love someone’s energy and personality before their gender…where you don’t care about gender, that’s not what it’s about, that’s secondary…i can’t remember lol. Im also aromantic. I am still leaarning about everything that’s on the spectrum, so bear with me. I just recently discovered asexuality last year (2017) so I am still very much elated today as I was the day I found out I was an asexual. That day, I spent hours online reading everything I could find. “I fucking knew it…” I learned that I’m normal, and that I am not alone on this. There’s an excellent community of aces in the LGBQ+ universe, and they’re some of the most patient, tollerant, caring and loving people you’ll ever know. I have answers now, finally, at age 33. I let go of a massive amount lot of guilt that day, and haven’t looked back since.
Around that same time, I was also diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, or mild autisim (as found in the DSM-5). That, too, was a liberating day. Some might see me as an asexual by default because of the Asperger’s diagnosis, but they feel very separate from each other.
I’m still waiting to meet another ace in the wild! I live in Kansas, a highly religious, blistering, toxic environment for the LGBT+ community, but I still hope to find another ace like me. 😉